Obviously naming your child is a personal decision, but that kid still has to go through life with the name you bestowed upon it, so you really should consider multiple variables in picking the name. As background, I can say that I really dislike my name. I have spent my entire life explaining to people how to pronounce it and had countless people argue with me about why it's spelled with a "K". By this point, this is how I feel about it.
|Just imagine I'm hitting my name instead|
You'd think I could just let it go and go by "Care-uh" since that's what people assume, but I freaking hate how that sounds. My reaction to that is the same as when you pet a cat against the grain of the fur.
|I want to scratch your eyes out|
As I understand it, my mom wanted to name me Marigold (seriously) and my dad was lobbying for Kate and somehow Kara was a compromise. Just to make sure I didn't decide to go by my middle name, they made that be "Ida". Meanwhile my husband has a normal name (Jeff) but his dad made sure to give him a middle name that started with a "F" so his initials would be "JFK", so he enjoys that, but at least it doesn't come up that often.
My background with my name history has shaped my priorities in picking a name for my kid. Here are some of my criteria:
It has to be easily pronounceable. I refuse to name my kid Anna and insist that people say "Ahhhh-na" or something ridiculous like that. It also can't be such a strange name that people stumble when trying to say it. This includes doing stupid shit like replacing "i" with "y" in a name to make it "unique". Newsflash: you're not making it unique, you're just making it look trashy.
People know the sex of the child based on the name. Listen, I get that lots of people like "Riley" for a girl, but if I see that name, I don't know if I'm going to meet a boy or a girl. Actually, this is what I'm expecting.
|Yeah, another Buffy reference. I can't help myself.|
It can't be the name of an ex or a former (or current) pet. This one is pretty easy, but it does amuse me when other people name their kids the same as a dog I once I had. Case in point: Jessica Simpson's new daughter is named "Maxwell" and I used to have a Doberman named Maxwell. Actually in general if I associate a name with a dog, that kills the name for me. I know lots of dogs named "Bella" and when I hear someone calling out the name "Hunter!" I expect to see a Lab come running up, not a kid.
It can't have embarrassing nickname possibilities. I liked the name Naomi for a girl, but then Van Wilder had to ruin it for everyone by pointing out that Naomi is just "I moan" spelled backwards. Also the name itself shouldn't be embarrassing for the kid, especially when combined with our last name.
It can't sound like a stage name. This pretty much only applies to girls, but if the name sounds like it would fit this statement "Next on stage, get out your ones and welcome..." then that's not going to work. It was bad enough when Peanut came with the name "Trixie" and her sister was "Diamond". If one of my kids ever works the pole one day, they're going to have to change their name because the one I give them will be too classy for that.
It can't be the name of someone I either hate or currently know. Everyone has that perfectly normal name that makes them shudder and think "That BITCH" so that is easy to avoid, but I also won't name the kid the same as my friends. For example, my mother-in-law likes the name "Emily". So do I, but I know more than one Emily and that's just strange to me to have a kid with the same name as a friend, unless I meant to name the kid after the friend. So yeah Emily and Emily, you've ruined this everyone. Thanks.
Those are pretty much all of my rules for a name, but I also have a lot of personal preferences like not liking boy names than end in -den (like Aiden, Jayden, Cayden, Fayden, Braydon, Gaydon, etc). Picking out Faith's name was ridiculously easy because when I was 10 weeks pregnant with her I just had a thought "If this is a girl, her name is Faith" as I was driving one day. Then once we found out that she was a girl, it was like "Well then, her name is Faith" and my husband liked the name too. We also liked the name "Nora" so we gave that to her as a middle name so she hopefully has an option in case she ends up hating the name Faith.
Since I came up with Faith's name, this time it's my husband's turn to come up with the name and I just have veto power. He's a procrastinator so if we have a name by the time we leave for the hospital for me to push this kid out, I'll be shocked. Maybe he figures if he waits until I have some drugs in my system that I'll agree to anything. He's a wise man.
Do you like your own name? Don't worry, your mom probably doesn't read this so you can feel free to be honest.