Tuesday, June 26, 2012

A common misunderstanding

Here's something fun about becoming a parent: people assume that you like children. I guess it's logical to assume since I like MY kid, but I still really don't like other people's children, especially other people's poorly behaved children. However, people see you with a kid and therefore assume that you must love all children and should be trusted to be responsible for them.

Today was a prime example of this phenomenon. My car needed service and it just wasn't going to work out for me to drop off the car the night before and get it later so I had to wait at the dealership...with a toddler...for 1.5 hours. It actually wasn't too bad because the dealership has this glassed in playroom full of toys next to the main lobby waiting area. Faith loves playing with new toys, so I just had to sit on a bean bag (no real chairs) and read my Kindle.

This carpet suggests that this is some kind of party room


Everything was peaceful until some mom decided that she didn't need to sit in the playroom with her two kids, probably because I was already in there. I guess I needed a shirt saying "Hey lazy bitch, I don't work here so watch your own damn kids"? I get that sitting on a bean bag sucks, but if I'm doing it while pregnant then I'm pretty sure anyone can handle it. Her kids were absolute monsters (what kind of kids just start throwing large plastic toys at the glass within the first 5 seconds?). Faith was pretty scared of them and just came and stood by me and gave me looks like "WTF is wrong with these small people?"

I'm pretty sure this picture was taken in southern MD

Eventually, my stink eye through the glass did the trick and their mother came and got them out of the playroom, but then another mom dropped off her kid there and went to go sit elsewhere. Seriously people, don't have kids if you don't want to freaking parent them. This kid was better than the first two, but he was a chatty kid, you know the kind that wants to talk AT you endlessly. Maybe I'm not up to date on current parenting trends, but I'd never let Faith do that to some poor stranger in a waiting room. I wouldn't even put my dog in a fenced area with a stranger and not pay attention because that's just rude. I'd like to think that my standards for my dog aren't too far reaching for everyone to apply to their offspring.

You know I had to bring ducks into this somehow

I think this will be more of an issue when Faith gets older and has friends come over to play because it's so awkward trying to deal with someone else's kid, especially if the kid has less than ideal parents.



Other than feeling superior about my parenting, I also ran today. I had a better run than yesterday and the weather helped a lot. We have a fantastic cool breeze today with temps in the 70s which feels amazing compared to last week. We'll be at 100 again by Friday, so it will be miserable outside again pretty soon. Yesterday I felt like giving up on running until after I have this baby and today I felt OK again, so go figure. Pregnant running is such a mind fuck.

Since I'm no longer aerodynamically built for speed (i.e. too fat to sprint), I got to help with registration and timing at the first event in my running club Summer Track Series tonight. I brought my little assistant along with me. She was more interested in sampling the ice pops than helping with set up:

Why have I waited 2 long years to have this??

It was a beautiful night to be outside, but it was close to toddler bedtime and she was getting cranky so I had to bail after about an hour. Faith missed out on her chance to time a heat, but there is always next time.

Mommy, you can't make this pace.


Are you half as cranky as me about parents not herding their feral children in public?


When was the last time you ran on a real track? I don't think I have since high school. I didn't run tonight, so the streak goes on. 

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  1. When I was still attempting the Runner's World Summer Run Streak, I headed to the track and the local high school to get a mile in just to keep the streak alive. (It died a few days later when I got a nasty chest cold.) I ran a mile on the track and then, since the hurdles were already set up, I gave a shot at running the 100m hurdles. I ran hurdles in HS, so it was fun to try it, but it was much more jarring to my body than I remember.

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    1. That's really impressive! Those things are intimidating. I wouldn't jump those things without a horse :)

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  2. I don't care how anyone else's kids behave (not my kids), but I sure as hell don't want to have to watch them.

    I ran 14 miles on a freaking track a few months ago. It might not have been bad if I were attempting speedwork or something, but my doctor told me to avoid hills that week, and I had a long run to get in. I thought it would be better than the treadmill, but it was possibly the most boring run ever. It did feel nice and spring-y though.

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    1. How did you even keep count of the laps for that??

      I only care about how other kids behave when it's in my face, like when they run up to Faith and snatch things from her or push her down.

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  3. I can't stand other people's kids. I feel awful, but it's true. It turns out I like some of my friend's little ones, but in general, if you don't do things exactly like me, you are a sucky parent. But let's leave out the fact that tonight we went to a ball game well into the bedtime hour, with a BAREFOOT toddler (10 pts for my husband on that one) who had a runny nose. We were the trashy people at a baseball game and that really says something.

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    1. Barefoot toddlers out at night = classy. Well done :)

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  4. Thank you for admitting you don't adore all children. :) I'm not a kid person but I feel like people look at me like I have a third head when I say that. Sorry you had to deal with that...

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    1. I'm not a kid person at all, but I really like my own kid. Go figure :)

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  5. There is nothing worse than having one punk kid in the neighborhood who wants to come and hang out at your house, play with your kids, and raise hell. With some kids I think "No wonder your parents wanted you out of the house to play somewhere else!"

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  6. You have this unique ability to make me snort whatever I'm drinking through my nose. I must stop reading your blog while drinking water. I'm also not a fan of kids....though it's more their ignorant parents who I really hate. Just to get me to the point of considering creating one of my own little monsters is a huge step. I haven't been on a real track since last summer and I nearly puked so I decided that wasn't for me. I'll just settle for being slow.

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  7. I don't like other people's kids but I like mine. I have a feeling I won't like my sister's kid either...I'm sure that'll be an awkward time. We recently vacationed to stay with my Husband's family and his sister brought her daughter over who is 5 and apparently very hyperactive. Claire (15 months old) just looked at her like she had crazy and it was catching so she needed to stay away from her. I plan on homeschooling so I don't have to deal with other children.

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    1. I may hate other people, but I'd never hate them enough to go through all the trouble of homeschooling haha.

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  8. Ugh, I can't stand when people don't watch their kids or just assume they can leave them around another adult and that person will watch them. Unfortunately one of Allan's brother's wives (notice I won't even call her a sister-in-law) believes if you are in the room you are watching her kid. Drives me crazy!

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  9. Give me a dog over a kid any day. Even a well-behaved one. I just do not like 'em. (Except yours--I'm sure yours are GREAT! lol) We are childless by choice, and I pray to God that the birth control keeps working as long as it takes me to convince my husband that they do not, in fact, cut your entire nutsack off during a vasectomy.

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    1. It is easier to discipline a strange dog. I don't know why squirting someone in the face with water is frowned upon for humans!

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  10. That would really annoy me. I've encountered similar situations on the playground with parents not paying attention to their kids. It drives me crazy. I've run on the track at the local high school a few times. I pass it frequently on my runs so it's easy enough to go there to run on it.

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  11. I had a similar experience about some big kids wrestling at the Chick fil a playground thing tonight, it almost got ugly. They seemed to get my stink eye.

    But more beside the point, do you know the ramp up to Memorial bridge in DC? do you know how huge those curbs are, my husband may or may not have chased some ducklings into a storm drain there by trying to help them jump up the huge curb and not get hit by a car. Dumb ducks.

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    1. Maybe the ducklings read that duck rape article and wanted to end it all?

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  12. Pretty sure the "kid" with the snake on it is a doll, but the duck thing is awesome. I probably spend way too much time bitching about how much parents suck at parenting so maybe I should refrain from it now. I can't wait to start track workouts again! Can Faith come time me?

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    1. Well the toddler dressed as a little stripper seems legit.

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  13. I haven't been on a track since high school. I really want to do more track work, but the track by my house is always locked.

    The duck thing is so awesome. I'm with you on the kid thing. Because I'm approaching 30 and don't have any, people assume I'm 1) either totally incompetent and don't let their kids near me or 2) about to come down with a raging case of baby-fever and hand their kids over to tempt me. Hehe.

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    1. I'm convinced that Faith would make you want a baby. :P

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  14. That would be very annoying about the other kids. I'm not a kid person either, some are OK but many annoy. Our neighbors have a chatty one and they never seem to be around when he is chatting with me, I just start walking away after a couple of minutes. Other than finishing a couple of races on a track, haven't been on one!

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    1. I do the same "Back away slowly" when I get cornered by a chatty kid in my neighborhood. :)

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  15. I don't love other people's kids but I feel bad if they don't behave well--how unfortunate that they didn't get to benefit from my expert parenting. So I try to remember that when one is bugging me. I will tell you, it gets a bit worse as they get older. Then you have the parents that try to run everything, the parents that think their kid does no wrong, the parents that just aren't there and the parents that want to relive their teen years through their kid.

    I think psychotherapy might be a good field to get in.........

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  16. Here's a common misunderstanding for you (not you specifically, but people in general):
    LOSE = not winning
    LOOSE = not tight

    GET IT RIGHT!

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  17. I ran a 5K that began and ended on a track. Hate it. I don't like seeing how far around the stupid thing is. And I hate other people's kids. There are some exceptions, but there are also come friends I spend less time with because their kids make me want to scream. I'm surprised you didn't say anything to the shitty parents. I probably would have taken my kid out of the room just to see if the parents would actually come back for the little twerps.

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    1. I thought about leaving the play room, but then I'd be stuck with a toddler in a waiting room with no toys.

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  18. I did track workouts almost every week last year. This year, not so much.

    I haven't really seen a ton of horrible parenting, but it's probably because I don't have kids. I HAVE, however, seen a woman berate someone else's 5 year old child for accidentally knocking over one of her groceries in line at the grocery store. That was uncomfortable for everyone.

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  19. I'm with you on the decision to leave their children - kind of rude - especially if they are unruly. If no one else was in there and it was glass and they were watching them from a seat outside, then MAYBE. Age is definitely a factor in that too.

    Having said that, I have to say, now that I am a Mom, all I can hope for from strangers is that they are kind to my child so I do my best to make a point to be kind to other children and pay them some attention even if it's just a short acknowledgement and a kind smile. At day care drop offs, I say good morning to a few kids by name and make them feel like they are little people and not herded animals. It's slightly different because they are kids and families that interact with my son on a daily basis and they will all eventually go to "real" school together. But I still show the same courtesy to any social situation where there are children present. A relentlessly chatty child can be annoying, especially when you don't know them and feel awkward, but I just chalk it up to - "I'd want someone to be kind to my child if the tables were turned."

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    1. Yeah, I'm all about smiling and being nice, but not when they are snatching toys from my kid's hands and scaring her. Then I don't feel like smiling anymore :)

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  20. I don't have kids, but I know that my sister-in-law would NEVER do this with my two nephews, and if I ever am a parent I would never leave my kids like that. I have friends whose daughter always drags me to her playroom to look at her toys, then wants me to stay for a tea party, play with her dolls, etc. She's a sweet kid... but she's 8. I am 31. We don't have much in common. I eventually end up gently letting her down & going to hang with the grown-ups but I feel slightly guilty & think her parents should perhaps realize that most adults don't want to play with American Girl dolls.

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  21. Honestly, that sh-t happens to me all the time and I don't even have kids! I guess I just don't look like a serial killer or child abductor so people feel comfortable letting me entertain their kids? I don't typically freak too much, because hey, I don't have to go home with this brat, but I can't get over how presumptuous and RUDE people can be.

    And I got to run on my college track for a while last year while I was living in the area. Perks of being an alum! I didn't use it for speedwork or anything because I'm slow, but it was nice for a change of scenery/running surface.

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  22. Yes people like to assume that because I am a Social Worker and used to work in a day care that I like kids. They also like to ask me to watch their kids. I don't like them and I don't want to watch them. Day care work was good pay in collage, that was it. It especially grinds my gears to be in public and see an adult not parenting there kids and letting them run amock.

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  23. Lazy parents are assholes. I've often worried about what I'll do when my daughter gets older and plays with kids whose parent are jerks.

    In other news, I've been reading your blog for a while, but I believe this is my first comment. I love that you run and are pregnant, but mostly I enjoy that you get to use the word fuck and do so often. Keep up the god work!

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  24. I loathe when bratty kids invade my space and their parents do nothing to stop it. Makes me question whether I want kids !!!!!

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  25. I don't mind other people's kids as much as I mind other parents with no conscience. I would have been annoyed at the dealership, too.
    My husband and I went to Vegas and I was shocked to see how many kids, babies and toddlers were out past midnight, awake, with their parents...really?! Maybe it's just me but I wouldn't want to do that!

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  26. Bratty kids with unattentive parents are the worst. Those parents ought to be whipped.

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