In reality, the reaction I usually get from suggesting a name is a nose wrinkle and a head shake or "Put it on the list" which just means he doesn't like it, but doesn't want to talk about it now and would rather delay his suffering. Our list currently has 11 names on it, which I think just shows how far we are from actually picking a name. I'm only 28 weeks pregnant, but I really don't want to go into the birth without a name because even with drugs, Kara in pain is not a reasonable person. Plus, post-birth hormones make me insane, like call my husband crying at 7am because the hospital cafeteria forgot to give me scrambled eggs with my breakfast...and I don't even like scrambled eggs.
One of my main problems with baby names is that a lot of the baby names that I like are really popular and I'm hesitant to pick a super popular name. I remember growing up with multiple Ashleys, Katelyns, and Amys and I don't really want our kid to have to deal with that. I could be wrong, maybe it's not so bad. It can't be as bad as having a name that no one can pronounce.
My other problem is that I think a lot of the popular names are strange. I'm not rich or poor enough to think "London" is a great name for a girl.
Oh, you named your baby London and you're insulted now?
So we have 12 weeks to figure this out (probably 13 since my body is stubborn like that) and I keep hoping for inspiration to hit and for both my husband and I to be like "That name is AWESOME!". Most of my Olympic watching has been name mining, but Olympians seem to have awful names like Misty. I'm having a baby, not buying a pony so I think I can pass on that one.
I'm pretty sure that 99% of our problem is that we're over-thinking the name issue. We look at from every angle, researching the origin and discussing any potential nicknames. By the time we're done tearing it apart, it's hard to still feel excited about a name. Plus, my husband is technically supposed to be picking the name, but he's really busy at work and grad school, so I'm "helping" but it's still really his ship to sail, so that frustrates me. I got to pick the name Faith, so I can't complain too much, but when the fetus feels like it will be the first baby to born by hollowing out a hole in my lower back, I start to think I should get to be a dictator in the name choosing election.
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So here is where it gets fun for you. If you have a great girl name (or think you know what name we'd like), leave it in the comment section and I'm sure some of them will make "the list" and you could potentially be naming our fetus. My husband thinks our problem is that we haven't evaluated enough names, so this can only help.
Do you have a hard time coming up with names, or is it easy for you?




Any name you pick, I'll be able to make fun of it, so try to minimize that.
ReplyDeleteI know I can count on you for that.
DeleteLila is my favorite girl name, but it means "night" in Hebrew, and my husband's native tongue is Hebrew. He says it's not a name. LAME.
ReplyDeleteOur short list of girl names is: Naomi, Sophie
you know that Naomi is "I Moan" backwards, right?
Deleteand Sophia is ranked #1 for 2011. It's a good unique name. Just like every other kid with her name.
Deletedo you pronounce "lila" with a long "I"? like "LIE-la"? or "LEE-la", like the cyclops from Futurama?
DeleteEither way, I agree that it's not a good name if you have to tell people how it's pronounced.
(see "kara").
Okay I know this blog invites snark but your wife should smack you for making this comment. Do you know how hard it is to choose a LIFE LONG name for your offspring? And do you know how insecure it can make people for you to poke fun at their choices?
DeleteThat's just mean.
Otherwise, you're hilarious.
He's hilarious :)
DeleteI love how you have so much conviction in your accusations that you have to post it anonymously.
DeleteKudos.
And just because your mother gave you a stupid name doesn't mean you have to live with it. Change it to "Ursula Goblinfucker" if you want. The govt doesn't care.
DeleteYou don't want Brian's wife to smack him. She'll break him. She outranks him at kung fu and has mad skills.
DeleteI'm afraid of her too.
Ursula Goblinfucker is too risqué. Don't go with it, Kara.
DeleteGirl names we had a few, but boys were really hard to come up with. I like Sydney, Cortney (duh), I also liked Cassidy. But to go along with Faith--how about Hope? Get it? Faith and Hope? :D
ReplyDeleteSo many options that way: Grace, Charity, Felicity, it's endless!
DeleteChastity. Her nickname can be ”Tity”
Delete-emily on her phone is too lazy to sign in
Tity would be the best nickname of all time.
DeleteCortney is good, because it's great when everyone misspells your name because your parents gave you a goofy spelling.
DeleteOlympic themed: Dong Dong or Destiny Hooker.
ReplyDeleteReal names of high school kids I've had: Secret, Camry Sivic, Cashmere.
Names I actually like and would name my own child: Amelia, Ellie, Kaylen, Madeline.
We had a hell of a time coming up with a name because my husband was super picky.
where in the H do you teach (I assume that's what you mean when you say "high school kids I've had)?!
DeleteCamry Sivic? That is awesome. I had a student in my community college class that I taught named "Ikea" but that's even better.
DeleteI like Amelia. Or Lucy, Clare, or meredith.
DeleteOr Trogdor the burninator.
Troooggggggdooooooorrrrrr!!!!
(also emily)
DeleteI like Trogdor, but it's a boy's name.
DeleteIts never too early for a gender crisis
DeleteThis string of comments just made my morning.
DeleteSo what about Trogdora? Obviously you have to avoid the boringly overused "Dora" nickname, but "Dorina" would probably stand in well. Better yet, "Troggy" in the early years.
DeleteThere's always Marzipan.
DeleteI can hear the lame college-bro pickup lines now...
Delete"hey, your name is Marzipan. I'd love to *eat* you. huh huh huh"
I'm in the same boat. I like classic (old lady) names, but not in a funny look-my-baby-has-an-old-lady-name way. (Hazel, Edith, Agatha). My husband has a way of shooting down most names by coming up with a mean nick name for them. I like the name Samantha, but then we'd have half of the cast of Sex & The City and I'm not sure how I feel about that.
ReplyDeleteYeah, my husband's main goal is finding things wrong with a name. He's a real Mexi-can't not a Mexi-can, that's the problem.
DeleteAgathadora.
DeleteAgathadorina.
Tragathadora.
Hazadora.
Mexiditha
DeleteMexidora
Mexicatrogadora
I'm a stay at home mom now, but when I worked I was a social worker. One client had two kids named Space and Nasa. So there's two options right there.
ReplyDeleteBut really my favorite girl names are Marian, Julia, Evangeline, and then classic names like Sarah, Elizabeth and Virginia (Ginny). Good luck!
First name Mars, middle name Rover? That could work. :)
DeleteDon't use my name. Sarah is awful cause everyone is named Sarah and no one can spell it correctly. I hate it.
DeleteHow can people struggle with spelling Sarah?? I mean, with an "h" or not, that's the only variation I think of that could cause issues.
Deletehttp://saaramarkkanen.com/
DeleteIf you say "Sarah with an h," they will spell it Sarha or Sahra. Freaking annoying.
DeleteJust met the sweetest little girl named 'Adelaide'. (and she was one strong willed 3 yr old!! Even compared to my two sweethearts!) Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWe actually already have that on our list! My husband came up with that one, go figure haha.
DeleteI wouldn't name my daughter anything that ended with "LAID".
DeleteWell, now that name is ruined.
DeleteI used to like the name Adelaide until I saw the show American Horror story and it ruined it for me. The little down syndrome girl on the show is named Adelaide (Addie) and she dies. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_Horror_Story
DeleteAdeline?
DeleteAdeline? Everyone will say, "Did you mean 'Madeline'?"
Deletehahaha...ending with "laid". Brian, I like you.
DeleteYou mean after watching the Olympics you didn't choose "Destiny" after the prestigously named Destiny Hooker on the US women's volleyball team? I smell a winner...
ReplyDeleteMy hubby and I have a boy's name we have always loved and it has a female version we would use too, so our first kid will probably be Gabriel/Garbrielle.
I tend to like old school names like Marian, Myriam (Mimi or Miri), Esther, Lucy, Lydia, Ruth, Rose, Margaret (Maggie)
A little more contemporary but not crazy popular: Charlotte, Nora, Lillian (Lilly), Claire, Cora, Molly, Daphne
It's fun to look through names when there is no pressure. I hope you guys figure something out for poor lil' fetus.
Nora is Faith's middle name! If it wasn't, that would totally be our front runner.
DeleteUh, Lilly, Lydia, Claire, Cora, Molly, and Daphne are ALL names on our list. And We already have a Charlotte. Who is this Rachel, and how does she know my brains?
DeleteI have super powers...
DeleteThis is freaky. We had Claire, Lydia, and Daphne on our short list and settled on Charlotte. I'm guessing if #2 is a girl then she'd be Lydia.
DeleteMoon Unit!!!!!
ReplyDeletewtf
DeleteZappa!
DeleteToo late. First kid would have had to be a planet or asteroid to set the theme.
DeleteFace it, Kara is stuck with Hope for her current spawn, and Charity for the next one.
Sydney
ReplyDeletePost Haste
Petunia
Cassie (btw, my mother's name)
Cassiopia
Glasglow
Menthia@!
"" - the name
133ta
wtf
Delete"Post Haste" is certainly better than planning to name the baby "Posthumous"
DeleteEthyl
ReplyDeleteAeon (flux)
Antigone
Europa
Ione
Iapetus
Ursula
wtf
DeleteGloria Grace Kramer. Tell Jeff if he doesn't like it, I'll take that as a sign he hates his MIL.
ReplyDeleteGloria makes me think of Glory which makes me think of Buffy dying. We can't have that. :)
DeleteYou watch too much tv.
DeleteYou need a good Irish name. Maureen. Or Patricia
Or hope, charity, prudence, mercy, you get the idea.
In fairness, most of my TV watching is while I'm running on the treadmill :)
DeleteHope, charity, prudence, mercy, wtf? Are you trying to make your kids into a walking bible sermon?
DeleteYou can always use the Buffy excuse for Faith, but there's no excuse for those others. Don't do that to a kid.
My personal favorite is Ampersand.
ReplyDeleteOr how about Aspaeris PivotShort?
Only if I got a lifetime supply of shorts for that.
DeleteSorry, it's trademarked. You'd have to pay me.
DeleteI have always loved the names Abigail (Abby) and Gabrielle (Gabby). Lindsey is nice too.
ReplyDeletewe had sooooooooooooooo much trouble picking a name. husband hated every single name on my list so we checked out 5 baby name books from the library and just dove into them until we agreed. wasn't easy!
ReplyDeletei work with a misty! ;) but her real name is mistina. i like it! but london is just weird. if i had a girl, i like cheyenne or montana, but for obvious reasons, my husband would never agree. LOL!!
My husband doesn't hate every name that I like, but he just doesn't like them "enough" whatever that means :)
Deletejust not Clara :)
ReplyDeleteI don't want her name getting too popular lol
Don't worry, apparently "Clara" is some aviation term with negative connotations, so we won't be using that one due to my husband's background :)
DeleteIt also sounds like a cow's name.
DeleteWhat about the close cognate "Klarita" ? I'm guessing that was from a country that used Cyrillic, so "Clarita" would be equivalent transliteration too, I presume.
DeleteOr Clarese?
DeleteLike silence of the lambs?
Every time you say her name, you have to say it all creepy like Anthony Hopkins.
Kierstan.
ReplyDeleteDone and done.
I like slightly old fashioned names with a twist, if that makes sense. Examples: Carolina (Care-o-leena, not like South Carolina), Madelina, Amelia
ReplyDeleteAlso, posts like this make me sad that my chosen profession (medicine) basically steals your peak reproductive years.
Yeah, don't do what Julia says, taking a name with a well-understood pronunciation and fucking it all up.
DeleteAs someone with a name that should be Care-a but is instead Car-a, I can't curse my offspring with a lifetime of correcting people. :)
DeleteThis is genius here. Name her after her mother, but fix the pronunciation to be different.
Delete"Kara" with a silent K.
GENIUS
Frankly, it doesn't matter if a name is too popular if it resonates with me enough. Granted, I do try to pick a name outside the realm of common but I still hear of a few people who named their child what I'm considering. I had three names picked out for my daughter and didn't "officially" name her until she was born. Actually they were calling her "Baby [My Last Name]" for two days before I felt confident that what I picked was her, totally and essentially.
ReplyDeleteJust try to think of something you wouldn't mind hearing or saying for the rest of your life. And use the very first name that strikes you in the pit of your stomach. It sounds really cheesy, but from what I've witnessed it's generally the name you'll choose anyway, or wish you had in the first place.
Also PLEASE tell me where the official link to the pregnant women porn is. I really need it. I mean, really. ;)
DeleteAsk and you shall receive! http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2012/1/17/porn-for-pregnant-ladies.html/
DeleteCorine, Violet, Heather, Lindsay, Rose, Georgia, Victoria, Eva, Ava, Julianne, Blair, Constance, Joanna, Leah, Eve, Lydia, Tabitha
ReplyDeleteOkay, I can solve your problem right now. Anna. Classic, but not common. Easy to pronounce. Works well with Faith.
ReplyDeleteIt's my name for my as-yet-nonexistent daughter, but I'll let you use it. :-)
If you haven't checked it out, swistlebabynames.blogspot.com is a great resource!
ReplyDeleteSome of my favorites: Charlotte, Caroline, Julianne, Lydia, Catherine, Felicity (Flicka or Fliss as a nickname, too cute!), Penelope (was a favorite, never to be used....darn Kardashians), Margaret, Matilda, Tessa, Terese, Rebecca, Audrey, Annie, etc.
I just found that blog yesterday!
DeleteI could never have a kid with a nickname of Flicka, everyone would think I wanted a horse instead :)
Yup, you're right forgot about the horse movie!
DeleteForgot to add Natalie
ReplyDeleteName her Rena, clearly. But in all seriousness, I have no idea what's a good name for a girl.
ReplyDeleteI'd be terrible at deciding a name for a kid. I have a hard enough time with dogs and it's not like they have to deal with people mis-pronouncing it, misspelling it or making fun of it (or asking if your full name is Abigail...no, it's not, why do you care random stranger?). I tried to name our second dog Jaycie but the sound was too similar to the first dog and he was confused...which is how it ended up Kasey.
ReplyDeleteI've already given you all of the names I like, but Mike doesn't. Plus, you don't like the names that we both like :)
ReplyDeleteI'm just not built for naming little people. That's why I don't have them. Names are such a big deal.
ReplyDeleteGirls names are much easier than boys names - Christian is dead set on Ajax or Astyanax. Which would be cool if he didn't have such a wussy death. (He also maintains that Chlamydia would be a great name if it wasn't an STD. fail.)
ReplyDeleteHow about Persephone, Andromache, or Clytemnestra?
I have SO many more boy names than girl names.
DeleteAnd you really want her to name her child something that begins with "clyt"?
I have enough trouble naming pets. I'm screwed when it comes to naming a kid. Especially since I just met my new neighbor and her dog. The dog is named me and my husband's top choice for a girl name.
ReplyDeleteI think it is pretty obvious you need to stick to Kardashian style naming conventions. For example, Kris named all her kids with "K"s.
ReplyDeleteSo - I'm sticking with F's here. Felicity, Fiona, Febreeze....
But then I'd need more than 2 kids for people to fully appreciate my insanity.
DeleteNext you have twins -- no, triplets -- and name them Flippa, Flappa, and Fleppa. People will notice the alliteration, I'm sure.
DeleteAs somebody who has been named Misty for going on 28 years, DO NOT NAME YOUR CHILD MISTY. Let's just say that I'm def in the minority since I haven't had any illegitimate children or drug arrests to date.
ReplyDeleteI work in social services and you can kind of tell what a kid's future holds with what name their mother gives them. Name her Miracle and she will be mentally challenged. Name her after a car and she will be a stripper and/or a teenage mother. Combining your and your husband's names to make one whopper of a jacked up name AND the kid will have ADHD. Seriously, get some Jane Austen novels or some equally as time tested and pull those names for comparison. I've always liked Lucy or Jane.
This comment cracked me up. :)
DeleteI have no idea how people name their children. Such a hard decision and so many different reactions to the same name for different people.
ReplyDeleteMy personal favorite name of all time would be Scheherazade, just because I love the character so much and grew up reading the stories. But I don't know if I could saddle a little girl with that!
I had Valerie on my girl list, but it was my good friend's mother's name who died when she was young and it became her daughter's middle name - I feet like it's "off limits". And rolling with the V theme - My great grandmother's name was Violet and I tried to convince hubby for a girls name, but he vetoed, same with Ruth. Other names on our girl list were: Rachel, Natalie, Julia & Audrey which are still fair game if we have a #2 girl :-)
ReplyDeleteWe used to have neighbours who named their kids with all last names: MacKenzie (girl), Delaney (girl), Jackson (boy). Delaney kind of grew on me, but is now a good friend's baby girl's middle name because it was her last name.
My wife's niece is named Laney, so "Delaney" would just be silly.
DeleteYeah, you don't want me naming your child. I actually have a list of names that I like, but most of them are boy names. I do like the name Cadence for a girl, but now that that's kind of popular, I've scrapped it. How about Kristen? Or Bella? ;-)
ReplyDeleteAlso, I see nothing wrong with naming your new child your older child's middle name. Nora FTW!
DeleteIf you do that, that's like enforcing the kid's position as #2 in the line. How is she supposed to grow up with any self esteem at all?
DeleteCadence? Like the song military guys sing as they PT? Or the Brooks minimalist shoe?
DeleteWait, Emily, I thought you didn't want kids, but you have a list of names??
DeleteWe already knew she has a few screws loose.
DeleteMy mother in law once taught siblings named "Orangejello and Lemonjello." Yup, kids named after jello.
ReplyDeleteI had one of those super-popular names and it was annoying. There was never a class with less than 3 Ashleys.
My mother-in-law said she had kids named that too. Either she lives in the same city as my MIL or they're making things up!
DeleteI have a friend who has stuffed animals named that.
DeletePronounced "o-RANJ-elo" and "yeh-LANJ-elo".
My dad used to tell the Lemonjello and Orangejello story too. I think it's just a boomer-era urban legend.
DeleteI personally love my name. I ended up with about 3 other Nicoles in high school (of course all three of us were Nicole W. so you couldn't even use last initial), but the name was popular I think a couple years before I was born so I think people were over it by the time my parents used it. I know "Nikki" is a nickname that you may or may not like, but my parents always called me Nicole and no one has dared to go against them. I'm the only one of my parents' four daughters, actually, that doesn't go by some shortened version of her name.
ReplyDeleteI happen to like all my sisters' names as well: Melissa, Samantha & Jennifer.
I don't exactly see what's wrong with giving baby #2 Faith's middle name (Nora) for a first name. I know a family that did that with their sons and unless you know them personally its not like Faith's middle name is really going to come up a lot anyhow. You obviously already like it.
My short list of girls names for the kids I'm never having: Chelsea, Natalie, Julie, Hailey, Lucy, Alice, Arielle, and Beverly.
Well, the main thing wrong with using Nora is that my husband says "no way" to naming this baby with Faith's middle name. He's very stubborn :)
DeleteDamn husbands! Mine's the same way, but to be fair, I'm pretty stubborn myself. It's awesome when we get into fights.
DeleteAs long as new baby isn't Nora Faith. New baby would need her own middle name.
DeleteI think Abilene, Maura and Zoila are cute. Different, but not too weird. I also like Nora, but I see you used that with Faith.
ReplyDeleteWorking in the ER I get to see all kinds of wonderful people with special names. Just in the last few weeks there has been: Precious, Shatswell (not kidding), Danyell, Sparkle, Keitha, and Alter.
I will keep an eye out for a good name here at work. I know I will find a winner.
My college roommate was actually named Sparkle LOL! It was a fairly popular movie in the 70s. The remake with Whitney Houston and Jordin Sparks is coming out soon so there may be a few more Sparkles being born soon.
DeleteI named my dog Sparkle. It's not a person name.
DeleteStand on your back porch and yell your favorite name at the top of your lungs 73 times. If you still like it, there's your winner.
ReplyDeleteIf I had done that before I got the dog, she wouldn't be named Peanut. I feel like such an ass yelling that.
DeleteI'm really not too fond of having a "unique" name like Kinley... I can't even count the number of times I get asked "is that short for something" or "where did your parents find that name"? I really should have a snarky comment I use to respond...
ReplyDeleteI don't have children but when my friends play the whole "name your future child game" I always say I will name my son/daughter Ottomer. That normally stops those types of questions - ha! (Clearly I would not name a child that for real). Obviously I will be awesome at naming a real child.
But, two of my favorite girls names are Amelia and Lucy. I'm sure there is some way to make fun of those names but I'm never good at thinking of all those potential problems :) Good luck!
Ottomer is an awesome name :)
DeleteCan I put my feet up on him?
DeleteI can sympathize with constantly correcting people. 99% of people I come across think Suzanne = Susan. Two different names, people. Two different names. I stubbornly refuse to answer to Susan and will stare blankly at someone until they use the correct name. I'm real friendly like that.
ReplyDeleteI wish people would jump off the Aiden, Brayden, Kayden, Jayden, etc train. My favorite girl name is Rose (Rosie).
People who think Suzanne = Susan are just lazy. I would pronounce Suzanne: Sooz-anne, empasis on the anne. Unlike Susan (Sooz-en, emphasis on the Sooz syllable).
DeleteI get to pick the first name this time. Thank God because my son's name is just...insane. I obviously don't know what I'm having but it will probably be a girl just because I want a boy so badly. My favorite girl name was Cayden until Hayden, Jayden and Bradon became popular.
ReplyDeleteI have a short list of names now with Simone and Leila being the frontrunners. I want slightly exotic but not too ethnic. My name automatically tells you that I'm black and I would prefer a name that does not do that.
I actually love your name with the intended pronounciation...not trying to kiss up or anything! It is just way too similar to my own name to use.
My mother's name is Beverly and her sister is Marilyn. You don't hear those names too much now. Don't know if they are "classic" though.
I like Leila too, but it feels too ethnic to me (for a white, potentially ginger kid anyway), but that could just be my background in studying Arabic.
DeleteI can't tell you any names because I don't have kids yet so I have to hoard them all for myself, sorry. I don't think I could ever give Eric naming rights to a baby, not just because he's black and picks horrible names, but because if I have to do the work of having the baby, I want at least equal say.
ReplyDeleteOh man, if you were black, you have so many more name choices.
DeleteAnything ending with "-iqua", for instance.
Oh, also, call me from the hospital instead of Jeff for your next post-birth freak out. I want to hear it.
ReplyDeleteJeff really should have recorded the call for future hilarity.
Deleteyou should skype it, like we did with my wife's family.
DeleteErin is a pretty awesome name. Just sayin' ;)
ReplyDeleteyeah, like "we wanted to have a boy and name him Aaron, but we had a girl."
DeleteI love Ella, Nola, Cora, Erin, and Leah. :)
ReplyDeleteI've only had experience naming a dog and I don't think you can go too wrong there! It is weird tho when I hear someone using my name for their dog!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteI've never heard a dog with my name, but I have seen a cat for adoption with my name! I almost felt like I should get it :)
DeleteAneka
ReplyDeleteEvery time i hear a weird name like that starting with the short "a" sound, I think,
Delete"what's a 'neka'?"
"Hi, I'm a neka. A neka is a small rare reptile that lives in the jungles of Borneo."
I don't understand why you don't like the name Faith. It's a perfectly good name. Use it.
ReplyDeleteWith the middle name "Two"?
DeleteFrom other things you've written about names, I'd suggest Charlotte, Anna, Leah, Rebecca, Katherine, Margaret, Margot, Eleanor, Eliza, Liza, Lillian. Classic names that aren't too common. I liked having an uncommon name and didn't want our children to be Ben W., etc. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteClassic-synthetic is also possible from this list.
DeleteCharlottanna, Charleah, Charlotiza, Charliza, Lillianna, Annerine
Or are these also too common?
Audrey, Leah, Genevieve, Martine, Anna, Hannah, Ingrid, Elise, Flora (kind of like Nora?) Kathryn (that's my daughter's name), Lily, Mia, Ruby...
ReplyDeleteI haven't seen an Adrianne mentioned yet! Or go with eastern european version, Adriana. However, be prepared for most people to spell it incorrectly.
ReplyDeleteCaroline. Classy, not too popular, and perfect for a WASP ;)
ReplyDeleteI read a bunch of these to my husband and he suggests Latrina, which is apparently the real name of some poor girl in this state.
ReplyDeleteJust do this: Get a set or two of those magnetic letters and throw them in a bag. Decide how long you want your kid's name to be - 5, 6, 7 letters, whatever. You and hubby take turns (or let Faith!) pulling letters out of the bag. Agree that you're stuck with whatever you pull out. Then, make a name. Done.
ReplyDeleteOh, and most importantly: GET THIS ON VIDEO.
Random magic letters - for the win! Genius. Looking forward to the video.
DeleteSo many comments I can't ready them all before posting my own. I say Buffy or Willow.
ReplyDelete